140. Geoff Steurer - Healing After Porn Betrayal: A Therapist’s Roadmap to Recovery

In this episode of the Unhooked Podcast, I interview Geoff Steurer, a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 25 years of experience in dealing with sexual betrayal, compulsive sexual behavior, and addiction. Geoff is the creator of the Courageous Together program and the co-author of 'Love You, Hate the Porn.' We delve into the intricacies of overcoming betrayal trauma induced by pornography, the importance of full disclosure, and why traditional marriage counseling often fails in these scenarios. Geoff also explains the stages of healing and how couples can rebuild trust and intimacy. This conversation is filled with hope, accountability, and practical steps for everyone struggling with or supporting someone in recovery from compulsive behavior.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction

01:14 Meet Geoff Steurer: Expert in Betrayal Trauma

01:46 The Impact of Pornography on Relationships

03:36 Geoff's Journey into Betrayal Trauma Therapy

04:05 The Evolution of Internet and Sexual Betrayal

09:33 Understanding the Dynamics of Betrayal

19:05 The Role of Shame and Secrecy in Betrayal

27:49 Healing and Rebuilding Trust in Relationships

31:55 The Importance of Professional Guidance in Disclosures

32:33 Early Tasks for the Betrayed Partner

33:53 The Timeline for Rebuilding Trust

35:32 The Role of Truth and Empathy

38:23 Learning to Sit with Discomfort

42:03 Understanding the Betrayed Partner's Perspective

45:13 The Potential for Growth and Healing

47:39 Common Misconceptions About Recovery

53:53 Introducing the Courageous Together Program

57:49 Final Thoughts and Resources

Connect with Geoff Steurer

📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/
🌍 Website: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/geoffsteurer

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